out of the mouth of a babe

being that it is the start of the new year, i thought it was important that i shared some of my personal thoughts such as "Your love is my drug" is not a term of endearment,

the beliefs i live by, and other 

things i think about.

feel free to quote me. 

People who hate [you] usually just hate what's missing in themselves. I don't worry about people who hurt me.  I care more about myself. The best way to deal with someone who's treating you in a way that is unfair and mean is not to pay attention; [attention] is what they crave anyway. 

A great way to feel really happy is to pick the weeds from your life - the flowers left smell pretty, unlike that trash that held you back. 

People who focus solely on being "loved" and wanting to feel "needed" forget to be lovable and don't work on making themselves worth being wanted. 

if you make someone change something about their life for you, they will wake up one day unhappy and blame you for all the reasons their heart aches.

"i'm hotter anyway so who cares?" - robyn from how i met your mother on ted's new girlfriend.

"Your love is my drug" is not a term of endearment. 

if you half-ass life, life will half-ass you.

the mean twisted things people say come from a storage box inside their heart - right by the box marked "insecurities" - usually someone said it about them before or they (secretly) think it about themselves; when they say they didn't mean what they said, remember it had to come from somewhere, and that kind of behavior is the learned kind - not the innate type.

True Romance is lust driven, selfish, and addictive; True Love is pure, special, and rare.

the empty vessel makes the most noise.

wisdom on an unhealthy relationship: 

[The person] cares about how you make [them] feel not about you. [They] love that [they] feel powerful with you, not that [they] feel powerful because of you.

there is a huge difference between being outspoken and speaking out. tactful, tasteful, and selfless; tactless, tasteless, and selfish.

Stop begging. Stop wanting something that doesn't want you or doesn't know if they want you. You can't make it happen. That's not how this love stuff works.

"truth is truth no matter where you find it; if you don't like it, you live your life with fallacies." - Dr. Gough

Usually people will pick the easiest path when faced with a decision, or they pick the one where they keep the most power (which also comes with smaller responsibility and the least growth). After all, it is much easier to live with yourself when the reminder of who you could be isn't there daily.

happy people don't tell the world they are happy with words,  they teach the world with their actions.

//sarabrook